“Forgive me for soiling myself – I’ve been extremely busy” …..

This is Linden Magee, Australian Motorbike Champion, teasing me for putting diesel in my Scooter ! The boys called me "Turbo" for months after that...dang it !

Linda Ireland, Melissa Schembri, Me, Carren Smith - 3 Of My Bestest, And Most Inspiring Friends XXOX

When I was little I bit my cousin Josh's back for opening up the Christmas presents too early. It gets reenacted every year, some things never change

1. You don’t wonder where your time went today and wonder why it feels like you got nothing done.  That’s because you have better time management skills – because you can actually concentrate on your multi tasking! By the way, it’s not called multi tasking if you have 8 windows open on your computer and you’re in the middle of 4 unfinished jobs – that’s just called procrastinating!
2. You don’t berate yourself for not being ”better’. You have a renewed sense of vigour and vitality to approach the day and you have the energy to BE the great leader, creator, and amazing mother, wife, friend that you can be.
3. You’re not a wall flower. People refer to you in terms such as you’ve just “got it” and that there is a certain “je ne sais quoi” about you. People admire you and want to be associated with you.
4. You have a life. You create MORE useable time for yourself, instead of giving yourself to just work, household duties, kids, partner, then flop on the couch and fall asleep in front of the tv at 8:30.
5. You make more money. You can create more opportunities for yourself, because you have the energy and focus to act on your instincts.
6. You look better ! You stop talking about yourself with terms like – jelly belly, fat bum, wobbly bits, tuckshop lady arms - because you think if you laugh about it, it hides how much it does affect you . Self depreciation is disempowering and take your concentration off what it is you really want to achieve. 
7. You feel better about yourself . You don’t waste time in front of the mirror, changing outfits, dissecting every part of your body, giving it an unflattering name whilst grabbing the flesh and wobbling it and screwing your face up. (No, there’s no camera in your bathroom, I just know you do it because I’ve done that too ! 

I could go on, but really there are many many symptoms, and really only one cause at the heart of it . Below is your hierarchy of responsibility which my fitness marketing mentor gave me a very stern talking to about . Yes, I tell this story to you with passion and direction because I too fall victim to not putting myself first.

YOU are the foundation of everything. And therefore you must put YOURSELF first and then the rest of the people in your life in the following order. When you get this right everything works. When something is off, I believe you can almost always trace it back to this hierarchy being "out of whack".

If you aren’t a business owner, you can put “Your Boss” or “Work” instead of “Your Team, but I’m sure you get the drift.  However,  most women in business look more like this

The foundation is broken. Current work structure gives too much client focus, while ignoring your own health and success, and the responsibilities you have to yourself first, your family and friends who count on you second, leaves a very WEAK foundation. Could you continue like this? I guess so... But all you need is the slightest push to send the whole thing crashing down. That's why you need to recognise the urgency in addressing this NOW and not later

I’m going to talk more about your Responsibility Pyramid later, but in the meantime please just make me one promise.

Today you will both make time to eat 3 nutritious meals, and 2 healthy snacks , 6 – 8 glasses of water ASWELL as going to the toilet. 

And you will feel all the more better for it

Until then !

Bianca